Your Relationship Hinges on These Unspoken Agreements

It might be time to speak up.

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Every relationship has the things we say out loud—the "I love yous," the sweet promises, the half-hearted “I don’t care, you pick” when deciding where to eat. But just as important (if not more) are the unspoken agreements lurking beneath the surface. These silent expectations shape everything from how you handle arguments to who’s stuck refilling the Brita.

And while some keep things running smoothly, others? Yeah, they can quietly wreck your relationship if you’re not on the same page. Like assuming effort will always be perfectly equal (spoiler: it won’t) or believing you don’t need to apologize if the other person "seems fine" (because who needs accountability, right?). The truth is, love alone doesn’t keep relationships thriving—understanding and addressing these unspoken rules before they turn into full-blown resentment does.