Why Don't They Ever Say the Right Thing?
Understanding how some partners communicate can help illuminate your relationship.
Do you feel like your partner never says the right thing when you need them to? Maybe they don’t say, “I’m sorry,” when they get things wrong. Or, perhaps they’re the type who says nothing at all when you’re sad, struggling, or frustrated.
That’s a tricky place to be in a relationship. Those of us with high communication needs thrive when we are with a partner who can keep the channels ever-open with us. When we’re down, we want them to use their words to lift us, and when we’re up we want to celebrate and be open more and more.
If your partner isn’t showing up at the same communication level, it can lead to problems in the connection. Fixing it? That doesn’t become possible until you understand the motivating force behind your partner’s inability to say the right thing when you need them to.
Let’s be clear, there are 2 types of communication failure in relationships.
Before you can look at the reasons behind a communication failure, you need to understand that there are 2 big motivating energies behind these failures. Partners have to be clear on these base motivations before moving forward because they make all the difference in seeing communication behaviors for what they really are.