The 7 Lies We Learn From Our Narcissist Parents
Don't fall for the delusion. Your happiness is in your hands.
To be raised by the narcissist to is to grow up in a world entirely removed from reality. Not everyone gets the Leave It to Beaver sense of family that they crave. Sometimes, we grow up in the hold of a narcissist who teaches us nothing but fear and emotional disconnection. If your parent was a narcissist, then it’s time for you to re-work their lies and establish an entirely new truth for yourself.
Losing the truth in childhood.
There are few times in our lives that are more important, developmentally speaking, than childhood. In our childhood, we learn how to make connections; we learn how to connect with ourselves, and we learn how to process the world around us. When these are interrupted by the chaos and emotional upset of trauma in adolescence, it leads to a serious disruption of self and happiness in adulthood.
Childhood is a time to discover our truths, but that is blocked by the lies of a narcissistic parent.
We have to spend our childhood exploring, experimenting, and discovering our truths. That’s not always possible, though, when we’re dealing with a narcissistic parent who blocks our attempts at self-discovery. When we grow up in the grips of a narcissist, our world gets built up on a foundation of lies. In order to take control of our futures and our potential, we have to strip back these lies and discover the truth of our lives for ourselves.
The lies narcissistic parents teach us.
When we are raised by a narcissist, we are filled up with a number of lies that undermine our happiness throughout adulthood. For us to get to that sense of success and joy, we have to learn how to rework these lies and undo the damage that they’ve caused.
1. Emotions are worthless
There is nothing more inconvenient to the narcissist than the emotions of others. It does nothing but force them to confront their own flaws, and feelings get in the way of them controlling others effectively. That’s why they often teach their children their emotions are worthless or unwanted. It has nothing to do with teaching the child “strength” and everything to do with making their own lives more comfortable and convenient.