Let's Talk About the Link Between Toxic Mothers and Their Toxic Sons
There is an undeniable connection between toxic mothers and the creation of toxic and abusive sons.
We talk a lot about the toxic men that we settle for and marry our lives to. But where do they come from? As the old adage goes, they don’t come out of a cabbage patch. They are born from human beings. Sure, some of them grow into the abhorrent examples their father set for them…but what of the mothers involved in raising these toxic husbands and boyfriends?
The time has finally come to address the elephant in the room: the toxic mother who produces toxic sons.
Often, she is the woman who refuses to say no. Less often, she is the mother who parentifies and dissolves herself in the identities of her sons. No matter how she comes, though, the shades of these toxic women are born and reborn over and over in their chaotic sons and the abusive, domineering relationships they create.
How do we break the spell that toxic men have over us? We get to the root of the problem and address the toxic mothers who make excuses and allowances for them.
What is the link between the toxic mother and the toxic son?
While there is no parent who holds more blame than the other, there is certainly a connection between a certain kind of toxic woman and the sons she raises. Toxic mothers are often the earliest point of encouragement and excuses that a dangerous or abusive man has. She may set the tone for the rest of his relationships by twisting the relationship she cultivates as a mother and a son.