Are You Ever Going to Be "Healed"? Or Have You Been Sold a Fantasy?

The truth about what is and isn't going to happen on this healing journey you're on.

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Looking back now, I realize I had all the wrong intentions when it came to therapy. I spent years, off and on, in different chairs, talking about some of my hurts and swiftly avoiding others. I was honest where I was concerned, but vague with all the rest. Now, I understand that I was looking for that magic fix. Give me the answer, Doc, so I can wake up a different (painless) person and move on.

Both my therapists and myself would have been better served if they had been honest with me: healing wasn’t coming. At least not as I *thought* I understood it.

You’ve probably been in a similar place, and if you haven’t you probably will be one day. What is that place? The space you think you’re willing to change in. It may even be rock botton. You’re ready to work, but you’re looking in the wrong places and (worse) you’re thinking in the most grandiose and magical of ways.

Life doesn’t work the way we want it to, and neither does our healing journey.

There’s no magical fix and no magically “clean” and “painfree” person that’s going to pop up now that you’re working on healing the hurt in your past. The point of healing is not to erase, but to embrace, and the whole process becomes a lot easier when we make this change in our mindset.